Today, we won’t be talking about Technology. We’re going off script!
I’m a beginner mom. You may be familiar with the stage of I don’t know what the H-E-double-hockey-sticks I’m doing. I’m at the tail end of the stage where I wipe up gross things that are not necessarily solid and not necessarily liquid. Science has not yet acknowledged these items as a state of their own. It’s the stage where these 2 humans, that I spent 9 months manufacturing, are now sitting in time out and talking back to me and emphasizing that I’m not their best friend. They do exactly the opposite of what I ask them to do, and they stare at me while they defy me. It’s that stage where they INSIST on doing everything themselves. (Sure, let’s take 12 minutes to button your shirt.) I’m beginning the stage where I invest a lot of energy cooking something, and when it’s on their plate, they look down, offer a polite pause, and then they look up and say “I don’t like that.”
And somehow, in all of this, I am still totally unconditionally smitten by them.
In any other relationship, in this seemingly uni-directional love, you would enlist professional help. But not this one. This one is apparently normal.
Moms Are Tough
This relationship, this role, demands many skills. We do these things and so much more:
- Process an unbelievable volume of laundry
- Tolerate glitter
- Step on hot wheels and sharp corners of legos
- Collect enough stuffed animals to fill 3 bathtubs
- Mediate verbal fights.
- Interrupt physical fights.
- Nurse wounds.
- Heal Purple Pony where the stuffing is coming out.
- Explain why you don’t wear tights in 98-degree weather.
- Sing out of tune.
- Tell stories about the penguin or the fairy.
Some things are a bit harder to do. Like the following…
- Smile to exude strength.
- Hold back tears to mask vulnerability.
- Extend our patience to let them grow.
- Pretend that it doesn’t break us.
And year, by year, we loosen the tether. We let go.
Whether your child is 4 or 44, motherhood is the job you don’t vacation from, the job you don’t retire from, the job you don’t quit. Luckily, motherhood is the most ginormous support group you’ll ever find.
I leave you with a short slideshow of my local support group. These are our GoEngineer moms who fulfill these skills and master so much more. I’m grateful to work with these amazing moms who manage to do it all.
Today, we turn off the ‘worky’, and turn on the ‘ooey gooey mushy’. Please still be our best friend.